I know sometimes apologizing can become a habit but it’s important to know what NOT to apologize for. ‘Cause let’s face it, it’s ok to be proud sometimes and stand up for what you believe in! A lot of times I find myself apologizing for things out of habit. But any time is a perfect time to unlearn a habit, so why not start now?
As an introverted/shy person who doesn’t enjoy conflict, I often find myself being a “yes man“. If someone asks me something, offers me advice, or suggests something, I usually just go along with it. Lately, as I’ve gotten older I’ve learned it’s important to say no to the things that you don’t agree with or want to do. It’s vital you have your own voice and opinion as an individual.
Following a Dream
Don’t ever let anyone discourage you or stop you from reaching for the stars. “If you can dream it, you can do it!” People often talk down on those who follow their dreams and that may discourage you so you apologize for even doing it and sometimes get discouraged.
Well, don’t! Follow your dreams because you will spend the rest of your life wondering ‘what if?’. I suggest you follow your dreams in silence and let the results speak for you. The haters will be left speechless!
We are all growing and evolving at a different pace. Our past doesn’t define us and it’s something you should never continue to apologize for. Whatever mistakes or regrets you have about your past, leave it there. You are a different person now and you are still learning. If anything let the past be a lesson and learn from it but never apologize for it.
“There is no such thing as a stupid question,” I remember my teachers always telling us this, I still didn’t ask any questions though. I tried to figure everything out on my own. Sometimes that’s not possible because you don’t have all the answers and Google isn’t always trustworthy.
Asking someone who has the experience and knows something first hand is awesome. Don’t be afraid to ask questions, learning new things can be fun and people are often flattered and willing to help.
Getting Something Off Your Chest
Sometimes you need to share your feelings. Holding feelings, thoughts, and opinions can be detrimental to your mental state. So express, express, express. But remember there is always a time and a place, don’t be inconsiderate but don’t apologize for speaking what you feel!
Standing Up For Yourself
You might be called all types of names for standing up for yourself but I’m here to tell you — do it anyway! You can’t depend on others to speak up for you so you HAVE to speak up for yourself. Apologize for what?! Protect yourself at all costs and don’t be afraid to stand up for your beliefs, thoughts, and opinions!
Celebrating What’s Important to You
I truly believe celebrating the small wins is so important! Have you been super depressed all week and you finally cleaned your house? CELEBRATE THAT SH*T! Did you just save hundreds of dollars at Target buy only going in and buying one thing?! CELEBRATE!
Whatever is important to you, small or big, celebrate it. If its a win to YOU, that’s all that should matter. Don’t apologize for celebrating what makes you happy and brings you joy.
What You Believe In
Not everyone is going to have the same values and beliefs as you. If they come up in conversation, don’t apologize for what you believe in. They are YOUR beliefs. People don’t have to agree with you and that’s okay, cutting off people is easier than you think!
If you are talented, rock it, embrace it, show it off! God has blessed you with a gift, maybe multiple. One thing you shouldn’t do is apologize for it. Being talented will bring on haters and naysayers, that’s okay though. Keep being talented, keep learning, keep getting better. Soon enough they’ll be asking you to teach them!
“We can’t help who we love”. This is so true. Sometimes people won’t like the person you love and that’s fine. That’s YOUR person, not theirs. Love on, with no regrets and no apologies. If that person adds to the happiness and joy in your life then that’s all that matters. The opinions of others don’t!
What I’m trying to get across is, you have to do what’s best for YOU and not live with regrets and what-ifs. You can’t make everyone happy, that’s not realistic. But you can make yourself happy — so do that instead. At the end of the day, you are all you have. You have to go to bed with yourself and your mind at night. Don’t spend that night wondering what you could have done or said differently.