1. Don’t compare yourself to others.
I personally struggle with this quite often and have deleted my social media pages multiple times because of it. We live in a time where we are constantly seeing what other people are up to via social media. Whether it’s the new job they just got, the new car, the new house, their current travel destination — you name it.
I like to call Facebook and Instagram a highlight reel because that’s exactly what it is — the good things going on in people’s lives. Most people are posting the ups, and the ups only. Very rarely do you see the struggle, the sacrifice, or the breakdowns people endured to get where they are.
2. You can’t find happiness in other people or things.
Next time you find yourself in the comparison trap, stop and remind yourself that you don’t what they had to go through or give up to get there. Everyone is walking different paths in this thing we called life and we can’t believe everything we see or read on social media. Live your life according to you, work hard, and mind your business.
For the past year or so I have struggled hard with my anxiety and depression and would often depend on material things or people to make me happy. For instance, if I had a bad day I would tell myself “if I just buy this one thing I know it will bring me joy because just looking at it does” WRONG. Do you know how much money I have wasted with that mindset?
Also, depending on people for your source of happiness is a no-go, you will always end up disappointed in some way. Whether it’s getting in a relationship to feel that void, getting attention from your peers, or even that new job you thought you wanted. You will never be truly satisfied.
Material things cannot bring you happiness. People cannot bring you happiness. They might bring you brief happiness (it’s serotonin ya’ll) but when that “happiness” runs out what are you left with? YOURSELF. At the end of the day, you are your only source of happiness, you just need to learn to create it.
3. No matter how good you think you are doing people will always find something wrong.
This is pretty much a continuation of #2. Stop living for the approval or validation of others because they will always find flaws. Whether it’s your parents, your friends, or your significant other. You have to do what makes you happy (as long as it’s not at the expense of others) because if you don’t you’ll just become more anxious and less likely to try new things. The need for approval kills freedom. You will become a prisoner of others if you constantly need approval and validation.
“Queen of social chameleons, I mastered the art of telling people what they wanted to hear and being someone they would find impressive—all the while worrying incessantly about what others thought of me, fearing criticism, and holding myself back as a result.”Sacha Crouch via tinybuddha.com
4. If you don’t try, you’ve already lost!
This is the most important life lesson of all and it speaks for itself. Try, try, try. Whatever you want in life, whatever you’re lacking, you can get it if you work hard at it. I recently told myself I don’t have the entrepreneurial spirit or I don’t think everyone has it. But I was wrong, we all have it, we just need to find it, hone in on it, and go at it with a passion.