Whether you are newly dating, in a long-term relationship, or even married, social media can have a negative effect on your relationship. It’s best to work on it proactively. Here are some variables that cause relationship issues due to social media and how you can combat them.
Can Cause Infidelity
If you or your significant other don’t set boundaries lines could get crossed and someone could end up hurt. A friendly DM or comment could lead to something more and we all know some people are oblivious to other flirtatious actions. So it’s important to let each other know what’s acceptable and what’s not.
Posting Too Personal
Sometimes your significant other might overshare y’alls relationship issues on the book or the gram. That could lead to hundreds, maybe thousands of people in your business. It’s important to discuss what makes your s.o. comfortable/uncomfortable. There is nothing worse than having an argument and then going on social media to see your s.o spewing their feelings out. Whatever you have going on between the two of you should stay between the two if you.
This happens when we base our self-worth on the likes and engagement we receive through social media. We sometimes get caught up in our presence on social media platforms that we forget to exist in real life. Couples aren’t posting their downs, their arguments, or their trials and tribulations. Don’t get so busy pretending to be a perfect couple on the gram that you forget to work on your relationship in real life!
It’s Addictive & Distracting
I know we can all relate to constantly scrolling, posting, and engaging. It’s fun and entertaining, that’s why we do it so much! But you have to learn when to put the phone down and focus on what’s in front of you. If you can’t go an hour without checking social media then something is wrong. Try putting your phone away or on the charger and enjoy the company of your s.o.
Competitive In Unhealthy Ways
I struggle with this quite a bit. I find myself comparing my lifestyle to others even though I don’t know what they sacrificed to get there. I sometimes compete with others in my head and that takes a toll on my husband. It’s quite annoying actually. I’m learning to work on that though and you should too if you’re struggling. Check out my post about Social Media and The Comparison Trap here.
Special Moments Aren’t So Special
When you are so busy trying to capture the perfect picture or video you lose that special moment. Not everything about your life needs to be shared. It removes the intimacy from the moment. I’m not saying don’t capture the special moments, just be diligent in how you are capturing them. Don’t let it be the main focus. Snap some pics and videos, save them for later and get back to your moment.
Social media can be fun and entertaining when you let it. The minute it starts to cause problems in your relationship you should take a step back and see if any of these apply to you. Have a discussion with your significant other and take the steps to have a healthier relationship with social media.
If you just can’t stay away from social media but don’t want to delete your accounts you can always deactivate your accounts and delete the app. I’ve done this multiple times and took months off. It was eye-opening for me. I wasn’t as depressed, my husband wasn’t having to deal with me not being myself — it was worth it in my eyes. Because if anyone on your social accounts really cared what you were up to or how you were doing they would text or call you!