7 Traits of an Emotionally Mature Person

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Science says that our brains don’t reach maturity until we are well into our 20s, 25 to be specific. Obviously some of us mature faster than others, it all depends on our circumstances. According to yourdictionary.com emotional maturity is defined as how well you are able to respond to situations, control your emotions, and behave in an adult manner when dealing with others.

Take Responsibility For Their Actions 

I know sometimes it can be hard for you to admit when you’ve made a mistake or have done something wrong. As an adult, it’s important to take accountability, no matter the situation. When you mature emotionally this will come easily for you. Right or wrong, responsibility and accountability for your actions is vital.

Express Gratitude Even During Difficult Times

This is something I have been practicing very hard since having children. I know as a stay at home mom things can become very stressful for us. Then I realize there are parents everywhere that are sacrificing this time I was blessed with to work full time. I make sure to keep up a gratitude journal. Whether it’s in my planner, in my iPhone notes, or in my journal. I wrote about here, check it out!

Not Afraid to Show Vulnerability & Ask for Help 

Being an adult, a mother, a wife, a sister, a daughter, asking for help doesn’t come easy, even though I know it should. My mother-in-law helped me with this over the past few years. She would call me and see in my eyes that I needed help (with the girls) but at the time I wasn’t ready to ask for help. She taught me that you have to ask for help, even if it’s difficult. Sometimes being vulnerable is ok. We could learn so much from others by doing this. 

Don’t be afraid to ask for help, no matter the situation.

Open to Learning New Things 

This is something I struggle with because my husband knows so much. He’s so wise it sometimes offends me. But as our relationship has aged I have learned that we can both learn things from each other. Every day he teaches me something new and I’m learning to appreciate that more and more.

In Control of Emotions 

*whew* When I tell you this is something I am trying to work on!? Ask everyone I live with lol. This one is hard and I know I need to practice what I preach. And I know once I start going to therapy this is something I’m going to have to work on. Everything I feel I feel it hard, whether it’s sadness, anger, or happiness. I’m an empath so also feed off of other people’s emotions, which can be good and bad.

My emotions fluctuate drastically. Is it an illness? We’ll find out. Either way, I am mature enough to recognize it and ready to work on it. 

True to Who They Are 

This doesn’t just mean following fads or certain trends. But being true to who you are on and offline. When you are around people are you using your energy to be someone you’re not? When you get around certain people is it easy to relax and be real or do you have to work to keep up a facade? Being true to who you are is so important because it relieves so much stress and brings on so much freedom. 

Considerate & Empathetic 

As I stated earlier, I am an empath. I know this because anytime someone shares something with me I automatically feel the emotions they’re feeling, whether it be positive or negative. Before I do or say anything, I’m considerate of how it will affect those around me. Same as absorbing negative and positive energy. Although this is an emotionally mature trait, it has its pros and cons. Be sure to surround yourself with positive energy always. 

All in all, becoming emotionally mature doesn’t just come with age. I’ve met people who are younger than me that act more emotionally mature than my peers. You have to train yourself to react to certain things in a certain way. Not everything deserves a reaction either! I’m working on my emotional maturity every day and I’m thankful for those around me that are patient.

Do you resonate with any of these traits? Do you know anyone who has some work to do? Send them this post! Leave a comment below and let’s talk about it!


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    1. I got 6 out of 7. My emotuons still get a best of me sometimes, but I do not think you need to control them. I written a post on that you should let emotions out sometimes to feel free.

  1. Very well written girl. I really agree with all of these. Show gratitude and love even in difficult times is really important. Just be true to yourself. And don’t hesitate to help who in needs.

  2. I love the part of not being afraid to show vulnerability. That is a part where a lot of us think you have to always hide, but on the contrary, it only shows how matured you are.

  3. Emotional intelligence is extremely important. Daily interaction with others requires us to control our emotions and that is only possible when we truly understand who we are. Thanks for sharing.

  4. I’m in my early 30’s and I’m guilty of not being in control of my emotions. I’m not the drama queen type, more I get easily irritated and has the tendency to lash. Thanks for this insightful article, made me realize that I have to work extra hard on becoming emotionally mature.

  5. I guess I am not as strong or matured as people say I am then 🙂
    All of the above but I have problems asking for help or showing weakness.

  6. These are very good traits of an emotionally mature person and these are just basic traits. You would think most people would be like this, but noooooope its hard. Great post hun!


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